Who are your people? Who you hang around with? Who you want to be? What you're trying to do? And are the people that you hang around supporting what you're trying to do? Because sometimes, people may not be your people. So let's say, you know for a fact that you're trying to lose weight. You're trying to be healthy. You want to be around for your kids and your grandkids. You want to play, you want to be healthy. You don’t want your back and your knees, your ankles hurting and I'm talking about me because I know about these ankle and I know about these hips. I already know what this means but if you hang around with Nyota, she may not be your best bet when it comes to food choices because, you all know, I eat a whole pizza at a time. So you looking at that part and Nyota’s eating whole pizzas. I probably shouldn't hang around with Nyota because Nyota is going to eat a whole pizza but Nyota walks every day.
If you're not doing all the pieces and parts, you have to be able to know what you can handle based on the people that you hang around. So another thing for me, the people that I hang around right now, they are really up leveling me and in turn, I am up leveling them, because we know that birds of a feather, flock together. But what kind of bird are you, though? Like what kind of bird? Like, are we eagleing together or are we just pecking at the dirt together? Are we able to fly high together or are we just able to just not get above a certain level, the people that I hang around, what am I doing right now? So right now, I am in a project management boot camp because I want my PMP. I'd been messing around with that thing, kicking that can down the road for years. But the people that I'm around, like my friend Terry, we've been friends for years. We were stationed together and things, and we're doing this program together. We're up leveling together and then here we are. We're also looking at doctorial programs together because these are the up levels that we're looking at. I'm in a program with my friends and mentor, Gahmya, of how to really hone in on my signature talk and delivering more talks because I'm saying what I want to do but if the people that you're hanging around are not in alignment with what you say that you want to do, it's going to make it a lot more difficult, a lot more challenging to accomplish your goals.
So look at who you're hanging around. Look at what their goals are, what they're trying to accomplish, and how do you know what their goals are? You just ask them, ask them what they're working on. Ask them what they're trying to do. I have one of my friends were looking at creating business together, so just who are your people? Who are you flocking together with? Are you guys all rising, tied together? Are you creating this ecosystem where you all grow together? And if they're not, if you're not, maybe you need to find another group of birds to hang around with or maybe you just start getting new birds to add to your group. You get to decide that. You get to decide how you want to grow. And this isn't about hurt feelings and hurting people's feelings. You have to decide where you want to be, who you want to fly high, or you just want to stay low.
You can say what you want. You can say what you want to accomplish, but do everything you can to accomplish your goals. So who you're hanging around with? Who you flocking together with? Who are your friends? Figure that out. Who you're hanging around with? Are they making you better? Are you making them better or are they making you worse and are you making them worse? Who's the influence here? How do you want to be influenced? Think about it. You get to decide what that looks like, but you can't be a victim in this situation. It's hard to be successful when the people that you're around are not successful. It's hard. You don't have to keep putting yourself in a hard situation. You don't have to. You get to decide.
