This lesson and ain’t all that easy and this lesson is new. I have this friend that I've been friends with forever and when I say forever, I'm saying forever like 2003-2004 and so when I was in North Carolina, I don't know if you guys remember last year, there was all the hurricanes and rally was in the line and Virginia and all of these people were in the line of getting tore down by the hurricane and during that time, I lived in my RV. I don't know if you guys know this, but I have an RV. I actually lived in my RV, so I was super scared - that closed down the airport and all of this stuff, so I didn't have anywhere to go and I was in conversation with her back and forth. “What are you going to do?”, “What are you going to do?”, “Where are you going to go?” Well, shit, I don't fucking know where I'm going to go because I can't just take my RV, am I going to get swept up in some hurricane. I don't have a real building. They weren't really letting people in hotels. All of these things were going on. So, what do I do? I figure out. So I call one of my other friends that's in Virginia and I'm like, “Hey, I don't have anywhere to go.” And they're like, “Well, you can come here,” but all the time, my friends calling, “What are you going to do?” Well, you're not inviting me to come to where you are, so I don't know what I'm going to do.” So I stop responding to her.
I started back talking to her maybe a few months ago because to let people out of your life because of whatever, it doesn't always make sense. So yesterday she asked me, “Why do we ever stop talking?” and I was like, “Well, during the hurricane, you kept asking me what I was going to do, but you never invited me to come to where you are.” So there's this one part, she had called me and she told me that the hurricane had passed them and that I'm welcome to come to their house and her daughter had been bit in the face by a dog, so I didn't get any of that message. I kept getting the end of the message about what am I going to do. I didn't get the invite and I felt some kind of way like you keep asking me when I'm going to do, but you're not helping with any kind of solution. I don't know what to do, but I missed a whole message of, you can come here, you can stay with us and I miss the whole my dog bit in the face in the middle of all of these things and so I'm in my feelings not responding to her because I think she's not wanting to help. I felt like complete shit. And so, of course, I apologized. And the part that I miss about the whole thing is that I've missed over a year of being in relationship with my friend because I didn't follow up, I wasn't communicating well and I was just going based off of what I thought was right in the time. So this lesson, I'm really proud of myself for not crying.
It's not always easy, but you know when it's right, so today's lesson is to say I'm sorry and do it your best to move on and I and again, it refers to the other lesson. Every lesson does not does not apply to you. Everything is not about you.
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